You've met many people in your life. How many of them have been your ideal mate? Probably very few. You may have dated someone very attractive, only to find that they don't seem so wonderful after you get to know them. If you're going to find Mr. or Ms. Right, you're probably going to have to go through a number of people - possibly a large number!
Here are some ideas on how to increase your contacts and find your partner:
#1: Decide what you want in a partner. Most people spend more time planning their vacations than they spend planning their lives!
#2: Be open and aware of people around you where ever you go. You never know when you might meet someone that fits your profile. Also, be prepared to say "hello".
#3: Don't discount any particular method of meeting other singles. Chat rooms, personal ads, singles organizations, classes, etc., are all good ways. You're going to need a large number of contacts to find the few that fit your goals.
#4: When you go out, dress! This doesn't mean that you always need to dress like you're going clubbing - just dress decently. Don't go to the store in sweats with your hair in curlers, and don't go to the bookstore in ratty shorts and a t-shirt with holes.
#5: Practice saying "hello" - to everyone. When you're on an elevator, or passing someone in the street. First, make eye contact and smile, and then say "hello". This is great practice for when it will be needed.
#6: Let your friends and family know that you're looking to meet someone. They may know someone from work or socially whom they think would work well as a match. Don't be too picky - you'd be surprised how well your friends know you!
#7: Get a hobby! By having other things you're interested in, you become a more interesting person. As well, you'll find many organizations that provide information on those hobbies and might meet something through them.
#8: Be open - many people unconscientiously close themselves off to others by averting their eyes, crossing their arms, and turning themselves away. Be aware of your body's posture and use it to tell others that you're approachable.
Finally, always protect yourself. Remember that the person you meet on-line or in a supermarket may or may not be the person you first think they are! Be open to new people, but don't give people your home address until after you get to know them.
Dr. Dennis Neder
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