Welcome back, Friend.
Well, I'm hung over this morning. My friend found some kind of metal bracket in her salad last night, and the waiter comped the entire meal as a result, and brought us several large pitchers of sangria as well. Long story short, my head hurts.
But that's nothing that a gram of ibuprofen can't fix, right? Right. By my calculations, it's time for me to stop my whining and get on with this newsletter.
This issue, we've got some questions and some comments from loyal RSD Newsletter subscribers. Our first question comes from a guy calling himself D...
*** QUESTION ***
I am thrilled that you are now sending out the newsletters. Now I just got to wait for the e-book. (-: I've never been to a seminar, but I have heard Tyler speak and let me tell you that alone gave me a lot of success, I listened to those CD's over and over again and I can tell just by how Tyler talks that he gets this whole area of dating, seduction and woman more so then a lot of guys out there, including "dating experts" so I can't wait to see what he has written in the e-book.
Now to my questions. What CD's do you recommend to play when getting physical with a woman? Please address artists and names of albums. Also, the music to play obviously depends on the vibe of the situation...if the woman is new and it's my first time getting physical with her, I probably would want to play some softer, more romantic tender kind of stuff...where as if the vibe seems to be more on a physical level and it's like our 3rd time getting physical, maybe some more high energy upbeat stuff would be most ideal, so do share what seems best for different vibes.
Also, what do you like to listen to in general that always puts you in more of a good positive upbeat confident state?
Almost all my success comes from using the Internet. I average 2-3 meetings a week from meeting women online and am usually seeing a woman once or twice a week that I have already established a casual relationship with. I would love to see what you have to say about using the Internet as a means to meeting woman as far as tips, pointers, etc., go...just anything that would improve my game online even more so.
I would especially love to see examples of e-mails you send to women online, like the first one you send out to a woman and the second one you send in response to what she writes back, as well as an example of what you write in a profile! (-;
>>>>>> MY REPLY:
Okay dude, this is a question I hear from time to time... what is the best music for your endgame, when you're back at your place and it's about to go down?
First off, I want to VETO all that "tender, romantic" crap.
While this might SEEM to be a good idea, especially for a chick you are getting with for the first time, I wouldn't recommend it. Why? Because it's very OBVIOUS, not to mention CHEESY. Play this stuff and you run the risk of triggering "anti-slut defense" in your girl. It's like, "Uh-oh, he's putting on the Lionel Richie, looks like he's gonna try to have sex now."
At the very least, you run the risk of having her laugh in your face at your cheesy taste in music. You don't want that, do you?
On the other side of the coin, I wouldn't want to play "high energy" stuff either. When it's time to get down to business, I want something that's going to slow things down, not keep the chick in a hyper state.
What then, you ask, does the magnificent Jeffy play when he's getting it on?
Well, this is something I've put a lot of thought into. I've compiled a large playlist of songs that I felt were appropriate for this sort of thing, and then through trial and error, eliminated the ones didn't work out as planned when push came to shove.
Basically, through this process I came to the conclusions that I stated above. Barry White is no good. "Techno" music is just as bad.
The ideal music is stuff that will blend into the environment, not stand out. Stuff that will set the mood you want without drawing attention to itself. Unobtrusive.
Think about this: what IS the mood you're trying to set here? You want the girl to feel RELAXED, and SEXY.
I prefer music without lyrics, stuff with a lounge-y feel to it, although I do have a lot of stuff with singing in it as well.
Oddly enough, I've found the best stuff has female singers, not dudes. Like, you'd think that Usher and all these male R&B singers would work, but I don't know, the chicks just seem to get more aroused by hearing a female voice singing in with sexual overtones. Maybe that's the chicks I pick up, I don't know. My guess is they relate to it, it's almost like pacing and leading.
So, let me open up my seduction playlist and give you a few explicit recommendations here.
Nathaniel Merriweather - "Lovage, Music to Make Love to Your Old Lady By". This is my go-to stuff right here. Perfect album, perfect feel. Listen to this and you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. You can just put this thing on repeat and go to work, fire and forget. I owe these guys a lot.
Portishead, Massive Attack, Garbage. Great examples of music with female vocals to get her in the mood. I also like Cibo Matto, but that's maybe a little esoteric for some people.
Peaches. This chick is nasty. I use this for younger girls and strippers, because it IS high-energy, yet very sexual. I dunno, for some reason, strippers seem to love this.
I also like Amon Tobin, some French guy who does low-key, lounge type stuff. I like lounge music in general, but stuff with an edge to it, not too "safe" like a lot of that genre, if that makes sense. The main thing is, it has no distracting "lyrics".
Beethoven, Moonlight Sonata. This is just one of many classical pieces I use for my endgame stuff. The point is, it has a lush, intense feeling to it, yet doesn't DEMAND your attention. That's a key element to all of the music I'm suggesting here. It's like soft lighting... it does the job but doesn't scream "LOOK AT ME!!"
I'll stop here, that should be more than enough to give you an idea of what we're talking about.
The main thing to ask yourself when selecting music is: what FEELING is this going to lend to the situation? What feeling do I WANT?
The answer is relaxed, comfortable, and sexy. Not cheesy, not bouncing off the walls. You're setting a mood, not making a statement.
>From that point, it's a matter of personal preference.
I'm not going to get into that whole internet pick-up thing right now, as my space here is limited, but I promise, I'll address that in an upcoming issue.
As far as what I listen to to get me in an upbeat state?
What else? JOURNEY.
Don't stop believin'.
*** SUCCESS STORY ***
I learned a ton at the bootcamp. The experience was exactly what I had hoped it would be. All the instructors were awesome and were experts at pick-up. Seeing it all live, up front, seeing them game chicks, all helped give me the new frame of reference I wanted to experience. It was fun, and funny too.
Seminar structure was great with day time pick ups and night time pick ups. Also - the positive energy amongst all the RSD people was truly evident and made the experience that much more valuable: the coaches were positive, yet real and honest with critique and feedback. I enjoyed the exercises Geoff had us do, as well as the wrap-ups Tyler would do at the end of the day back at the house.
I can't say enough what a worthwhile, enjoyable experience the weekend was. I've added another goal for myself, which is to find more guys to hang with who are good at this as many of my friends are either not so good at it or don't try.
You guys rock!
- Michael S., Chicago
>>>>>> MY REPLY:
Goals are important, Michael, and yours is definitely a worthwhile one. A lot of guys get into this game and find that it's something their old buddies aren't really interested in, or even something they ridicule.
The thing is, guys think that being bad with women says a lot of very BAD things about their value as people, when in reality, it's just a skill set like any other. You wouldn't feel bad about yourself if you didn't know how to ballroom dance, but with pick up, it's different. It's the 800 pound gorilla in the room nobody wants to talk about.
But you know better, you've taken steps in the right direction, and you realize you're gonna have to get some new friends to help you out here. Don't worry about it too much... as your social skills generally increase due to your field work, you'll discover making friends with cool people is easy as pie. Whatever that means. "Easy as pie"? Did I just say that?
Glad to hear you were satisfied with the program. We've been doing this for a long time, and over the course of the years, we've constantly upgraded and tweaked the structure of the programs to improve them and provide the maximum value and impact. Add to that the fact that our hand-picked Executive Coaching staff consists of some of the most dedicated, professional people I've ever had the privelege to meet, and it all adds up to what I think is the best program of it's kind on the market today, bar none.
At the RSD Individualized Bootcamp, you'll live with the instructors for 2 days and 3 nights. From the moment you meet up with your instructors, you're plunged into a relentless high-speed thrill ride of controlled mayhem, chaos and pick-up. Over the course of the weekend, you'll be bombarded with the cutting-edge information that the best players in the world use to get the women they desire into bed with shocking consistency. All the while, you'll be interacting with women, LIVE and IN THE FIELD, while the Executive Coaches stand by, providing demonstration, feedback and support.
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*** QUESTION ***
How you doing? Got a question for you.
Ok here goes, i'm out walking in town and I see this/these women and I really want to talk to them. I start approaching them, and my heart rate gets faster and faster all the time while loserboy inside my head keeps on saying "don't do it! remember the last time you fool you stopped a chick and your mind went blank/she said she was busy!"
Now what the hell am I suppose to do?
Thanks for your help,
>>>>>> MY REPLY:
All right buddy, you've got approach anxiety.
This happens to all of us at one time or another. It's nothing to be worried about, in fact it would be ABNORMAL if you didn't get it from time to time.
Why? Because it's a learned response. Social pressure, in this case rejection, triggers pain receptors in the brain. Over time, we learn to avoid situations that could result in this pain.
That voice in your head could just as easily be saying, "Don't do it! Remember the last time you fool you put your hand on the stove and it burned you?!"
The thing is, with repeated exposure to this pain, we can become immune to it. Just as a boxer engages in full-contact sparring to get accustomed to the feeling of being hit, we can throw ourselves into situations where we are exposed to social pressure as a way to build up a tolerance to it.
Once this tolerance is established, not only does it allow you to fearlessly approach any group of people, but it has the side benefit of being extremely intriguing to women.
That's right: tolerance to social pressure is sexy because it is an indicator of high status.
Listen, even the top boxers get somewhat nervous before the fight. If they didn't, they wouldn't be human.
The difference is, they don't let it CONTROL them. They use it to their advantage.
So the next time you see that pretty woman on the street, re-frame that anxiety for what it is, and use the situation as a way to build up your tolerance to social pressure.
Do that, and you've won half the battle.
What's the other half, you ask?
It's called GAME, and interestingly enough, it's what we teach in our RSD Personalized Workshops.
What you get in these newsletters is just the tip of the iceberg. Over the course of the three day program, we'll conduct an EXHAUSTIVE analysis of your game until no stone has been left unturned, so to speak.
By the end of the third day, your life will be changed.
There's no time to waste... take the steps to unleash the cool, suave "ladies' man" you know you have lurking inside, ASAP!
You can see our upcoming schedule of events and sign up for your Personalized Workshop by clicking here:
Anyway, that's all for today. I'm gonna go get some Gatorade or something, pound some more pills and put my head in a bucket of ice water. I welcome you to do the same.
See ya next issue.
Jeffy, Executive Coach REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS
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